I have been thinking about this often as of late, Why Do Our Lives Turn Out the Way They Do?.
What got it all started was, I have two friends, one I have known most of my life and the other I went to high school with, but we didn’t meet until a class reunion about 3 years ago.
The one I have known most of my life is divorced with 5 adult children and a number of grandchildren. She has always been a sweet person and hard worker. She has had many health issues over the years. Now she is going through esophageal cancer. This strong woman has been suffering for a long time trying to find a doctor that could tell her what’s wrong. Finally she got into one of the best hospitals in the mid-west. She has so many allergies to important things like anesthesia, chemo drugs. She had to have a feeding tube put in and has had numerous infections and multiple surgeries. Her finances have dwindled to hardly nothing because she has not been able to hold down a job. Her car died on her, so she has to rely on friends and family to take her far from her home to get to the hospital for her treatments, etc. Much of her situation is not of her own doing. She is a strong woman of faith and my heart aches for her. I pray for God to miraculously heal her!
The other friend from high school also has many health issues, financial issues and family issues. Many of the problems in her life are caused by life choices. I don’t know if she was married or not, but she has two beautiful adult daughters, each daughter has children. I don’t know where she gets her money to live, I am guessing from the government. There is always so much drama in her life. Since I met her she has lived multiple places, many times with her daughters and grandchildren (which she adores), then the daughters take advantage of her by needing money, not cleaning up after themselves and children, always having her watch the kids so they can go out and have fun. She never has her “own time” (which I can relate to) and then she will go stay at her on again, off again boyfriend until he treats her badly and they break up again. She finally got her own apartment, then hated it because she was so lonely without her family. She knows that she keeps doing the same things over and over. She is a strong woman and my heart aches for her also. I pray one day she’ll realize that she needs to live for herself now and not her family, they are adults with their own children.
For me it is so hard to see others struggle. I have had my own financial issues, health issues and still do.
I know many people say “God will not give you more than you can handle.” How do some people turn out to be so much stronger than others? You can grow up in the same family and turn out so differently, health-wise, tastes in food, music, political views, even morals.
Why do our lives turn out the way they do?